Living by What We know is Truth.

I had to laugh at myself a few weeks ago. On my way to work, I decided that I would stop at my favorite mermaid coffee place where I knew there was a drive-thru to pick up a little caffeine-fix. The line was ridiculous, but oh boy I wanted that caffeine to make it through another winter snowed-in kind of day. So being a little tired (anyone else relate prior to your morning caffeine?)....I make it through the line and get to the window, and realised I never ordered before pulling up!!?!  Apparently I just never stopped at the little box to order, I just drove straight to the pick-up window. I laughed so hard at myself you guys! Not to mention the staff inside I'm sure were laughing so hard at me. 

So I had the park of shame as I placed my order and pulled aside to wait, while cars behind me had to navigate around me to exit from the Starbucks pick-up line. Cue the shades of red on my face! 

Anyway, that hilarious story reminded me for some reason of those moments in grade school. You know the ones where you feel as though everyone in school hates you because you look silly in your outfit that day. 

And in reality it may have been that one girl didn't like it and told you in an incredibly confrontational insensitive way while standing in the girls bathroom. Well you let it fester but act on the outside as though you don't care what they think. But by the end of the school day, you are convinced that everyone things you have terrible fashion sense and you vow never to wear that shirt ever again despite the fact that you saved up some of your own money to buy it. Anyone relate?   

Yeah - as if braces weren't enough of an issue ;) 

My own problem in situations like these, I allowed my feelings to guide my actions. I totally allow people to dictate how I am going to handle life in that moment. Instead of telling myself truth, I allow them power over me by telling me my value (whether that's my stupidity over messing up in a drive-thru line or the shirt I am wearing). 

Suddenly my entire worth in one particular area is in shreds and while perhaps a person was rude or insensitive towards me, I gave them the power to tell me my value. 

I handed it over to them on a silver platter.

The Lord has broken me in the last few months over this issue. He has began to show me that one of my greatest insecurities is what other people think about me. To the point where one person openly displaying they don't like me much causes a cascade of emotion and insecurity. 

I have been putting my value in the wrong places. I have previously allowed anyone with an opinion a say in how valuable I am.

And I see now just how plain stupid that is. 

'For you created my inmost being;

    you knit me together in my mother’s womb.

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I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;

    your works are wonderful,

    I know that full well.'

Psalm 139:13-14

'For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.'

Ephesians 2:10

'But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.'

2 Corinthians 12:9-10

Oh friends, how I have just held on tight to these words and so many others as I have explored really learning where my value lies. I have been battling so hard to curb this bad habit of mine.

See the only way I have made progress at breaking this was to start shifting my surrender in this battle of worth. To realise that people don't dictate my worth and value. People will do or say things to continually hurt me, but it shouldn't shake my world like it has been.

Because I believe that what God says about me is true.

Now when these thoughts appear after a harsh word or comment, I remind myself of my worth and value through those precious life-breathing words in scripture. 

And I'm now finding that it's way healthier for my soul. It's so freeing taking back that power that I had surrendered to people I never should have given it to. 

To worry less & put less value in what people say or think about me. 

Instead to trust what He has to say about me. And to believe that is the truth.

Where do you find your worth?

{Via}

I don't know how many of you ladies have had the opportunity to watch

 (or read if you are a book-lover) The Help. 

I watched it when it came to redbox with a precious friend when she came to visit last December

and just loved it. 

This past week, while I had no internet and felt completely pooped from all the moving and cleaning.....

I decided to watch it again.

This time the sweet interaction between Skeeter (the main character) 

and the maid from her childhood, Constantine, 

reinforced a similar thing I had read in my devotions 

(I started reading Rebecca St James Pure about a week ago).

Skeeter is feeling depressed about her school friends and mother telling her

she isn't pretty and is sitting alone in the garden.

Constantine says to her:

'I wish you'd quit feeling sorry for yourself!

Now that's ugly!' 

She goes on to tell Skeeter how everyday that you wake up in life

you have to make a decision about whether you are going

to believe what other people are saying about you.

It so resonated the message from the day two devotion I had read about 

who you let determine your worth.

As women, are we basing our value on what others think of us? 

Do we spend all our time making ourselves beautiful because of

how others will respond to us? Do we behave a certain way to win the respect

of those whose opinion we value?

Do we let other people's negative comments about us get us down?

Do we hear those comments and opinions above what our precious heavenly Father thinks of us?

There are a few people in my life who I would love to have positive opinions about

me. But to what extend should I want those opinions?

I certainly don't think I should change who the Lord has made me and change

the ways He is using in ministry just to seem better to a select few.

Are not two sparrows sold for a penny? 

Yet not one of them will fall to the ground outside your Father’s care.

And even the very hairs of your head are all numbered. 

So don’t be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows.

[Matthew 10:29-31]

I am not trying to preach a self-worth message, I am just talking about seeing

oneself with God-worth (not self-worth).

Choosing to believe the Lord's truths about yourself instead of trying to win the approval

and respect of others to find worth.

{via}

I hope to never live life with a sense that God is disappointed in me,

that I will never be good enough.

But instead to choose to believe His truth.

That I am loved and secure in Him.

I belong to Him.

I am accepted and cherished - By Him.


Remember that there is one person whose opinion matters.
He has already told you what He thinks of you.
(Read the Bible to know more...)


Don't base your opinion of yourself on false or conditional love from others.
You are not more important to Him because of what you do or don't
do for others.
Don't get so wrapped up in selfishness that you can't see beyond yourself
to see who you are in Christ.
(Yes, that is possible....)


You see, at just the right time, when we were still powerless, Christ died for the ungodly. 
Very rarely will anyone die for a righteous person, 
though for a good person someone might possibly dare to die. 
But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: 
While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.
[Romans 5:6-8]

{Via}


Remember ladies.....

The Lord loves You.
He wants to spend time with You
(even if it feels like no-one else wants to).
He values You.
He won't exclude You.
He understands You & Cherishes You.

Know that you are Loved by the Lord.


Where do you find your worth?



Much Love,
L

P.S. I hope to be back now with regular internet =) Thanks for being awesome hosts for my guest posters.